There’s something we need to talk about, folks. Today, we’re talking about this little thing called self-care. This is going to be as short and sweet as I can make it, because as you’ll see below, I’m focusing on this big-time.
Self-care is not only important—it’s a necessity. When life kicks into high gear, when it’s throwing things at you from this way and that, it’s easy to get consumed. And while you’re doing the best you can, becoming overwhelmed is a possibility at every turn. This can result in so many things.
Tears. Lots of tears.
And sometimes, you can become lost. You can forget who you are. You forget where your identity lies. And that may be worse than any level of exhaustion.
Trust me. I know this well. Because I’m there.
We absolutely need to have each other’s backs in this crazy life-thing, but we often forget to have our own backs. We give and we give and we give, to both our work and to others, and if we don’t refill ourselves…well, we’re drained. Empty.
So, what does self-care look like? It’s different for everyone. If you’re in a pretty good place, little things like an afternoon cup of tea and a great book may do wonders. But if you’ve let yourself go past that point (*eyes self*), then you may need to go bigger.
– Find your core group. Spend time with them. Reconnect. These are the people you do life with. These are the ones who know you, know you—the ones who won’t let you get away with “I’m fine.” These are the ones who’ll call you on your crap while meeting you for coffee.
– Pinpoint what is life-draining, and what is life-giving. If you can eliminate the life-drainers, do it. Drop them like a hot potato.
– Take a step back. Close your calendar. Take a social media hiatus. Focus on your top priorities, and give your best to them. Much like the life-drainers, if you’re able to eliminate anything here, do it.
Self-care is not selfish. Taking a step back is not selfish. Focusing on your mental health is not selfish. All of these—they’re necessary. Because if you don’t take care of yourself, there’s no way you’ll be able to take care of others.
Take care, friends. ❤